How does life transformation create a long lasting life transformation?
Does starting life coaching seem a little risky? It’s a fair when you’re about to commit to time, energy and money! You probably want to ensure you get value for money and create a long lasting life transformation.
So, it’s worth looking at how life coaching actually transforms lives.
You’re going to transform your life
The first thing to remember is that it’s all about positive change. You wouldn’t be looking at coaching unless you wanted something to change, for the better! And remember, we create a long lasting life transformation that is both internal and external.
External change could be; circumstance, career, location, hobbies, friendship groups, employees or anything on the outside.
Slightly more importantly, internal changes are; perspectives, thought patterns and awareness to feelings that are controlling you. These are the changes that will create lasting transformation. and a key focus in life coaching.
Change your internal critical self-talk
Life coaching is a collaborative process where we work on changing both the internal and external simultaneously. However, we spend more time on the internal, with guidance on the external. In a nutshell, that’s how we make long lasting life transformation.
Imagine changing the internal critical thoughts that are holding you back from achieving your dreams. This will automatically start altering your external circumstances as you move towards the dream. But then, you will probably need support keeping on track of the new direction. After all, you’ll be navigating new circumstances.
A real-world example could be: You have a dream to start your own company that gives back to the world but your worried about failing because of a fear of judgement.
What does a Life Coach do?
A coach would first look at the fear of judgement, we build an awareness of the thoughts and feelings behind it. This awareness shines a spotlight on the darker aspects of this critical self and helps to overcome it.
We would balance this with dialling into the core values that you will need to achieve the dream. Then we create tangible external actions that solidify the new, internal learning. The actions will be designed to create further positive change.
In the second session, we might look at the actions created and look at what alignment they have with your core values and your bigger dream. We might further explore the change that’s already happening and how the critical self-talk has changed (because it does). Then more tangible actions towards the dream that are aligned with values and further diminishing the effect of critical self-talk.
I recently received feedback from a client that said:
“Jon is in fact a natural coaching professional, with a well-developed intuition and emotional skillset… This collaborative experience leaves me inspired from the inside, rather than by some external carrot on a stick”
Alternatively:
A mentor might help you discover the steps you need to go though to create the business in the first session, they will guide you with their expertise and if you have no internal self critical talk this could be the best solution for you. In the second session they might look at more external outcomes that are needed. And perhaps still nothing really happens. Then the client further solidifies the critical self-talk because nothing is changing.
If that resonates, try life coaching.
Who wrote
the coaching blog?
I’m Jon Younghusband – The Unity Coach.
Finding the best life coach can be hard, it’s important to resonate with your coach. I primarily work with:
- People who want to find their life meaning. If you’re feel stuck and want to make positive changes to your situation, I can help.
- Leaders and people of influence who need help making a difference. I can help you unleash your true potential.
- Businesses looking for clear directions and sustained growth. I can help you grow your business.
I began coaching whist working as a Sales Manager for a Sunday Times top 100 company… [read more]
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Where we will:
- Have our first coaching session together
- Decide how and if we can work together
- First draft your ‘Life purpose’ Statement
- Start mining your core values
